As a child no matter what was happening in my world, the holidays represented magic. My mother’s cookies filled me with warmth. Christmas Eve tradition allowed for me to open one gift. This gift was always a new set of pajamas. A few hours later, I’d slip into my new swag, go to bed and not sleep wink. Each part of my being was filled with excitement and anticipation, sleep was not an option. Back then, each new holiday season brought renewed bliss.
As adults, many of us have experienced a very different side to the holiday season - increased stressed, the blues or just plain exhaustion. Our already busy schedules combined with added pressures, can be complete overload. The pace is faster. Daily routines change. Longer to-do lists. Financial pressures. Family obligations. Travel. Increased expectations…. And these are just the physical & mental layers.
The emotional layer, is also very real. The holidays can amplify some yucky feels, let’s be honest. They could be a reminder of the loss of a loved one or intensify feelings of loneliness especially, if you’re single or away from family. Inadequacies or envy could come up because according to your social media feed – everyone’s life is perfect (you know that’s BULLSHIT btw… say that 3 times out loud.)
These emotions are natural and it’s OK. Honor these feelings, give yourself a big hug and give these feelings a voice (shout) … I FEEL X. Take time for yourself, do something you love or try something new. Make a hot cup of tea & take 30 minutes to read that book you started 2 months ago. Burn copal or your favorite candle. Draw a bath. Listen to Sade. Dance. Create. Try a meditation class or healing workshop (tip - if you’re near Brooklyn, I highly recommend paying a visit to Maha Rose. I’ve personally witnessed some magical moments in their space)
The benefits of making space for YOU are comparable to Popeye & his spinach. Each layer of you becomes stronger. I know, from experience.
Remember…Be easy. Be kind. Be gentle.
Wishing you lots of magic this holiday season,
The Wolf In Me